Inappropriate Fantasies? Jealous? Here's what's up...

Here’s the thing about that inappropriate fantasy you’re having - or the jealousy you’re blinded by. Two sides of the same fascinating coin IMO.
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When you’re fantasizing about a particular dude - when you’re jealous of some chick who has it all - when you’re watching someone have success, and you DESPAIR that it’s never going to happen for you, you’re missing the point and you’re not getting value from the whole thing.
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There’s a simple way to take it one step further and realize there’s something you’re not giving yourself in THIS VERY MOMENT that you’re CRAVING. That’s the root of the “inappropriate fantasy” - that’s the root of jealousy.
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So, identify what it is SPECIFICALLY in the fantasy you’re having about that dude that turns you on - what SPECIFICALLY you’re jealous of with that chick - what SPECIFICALLY about that other person’s success has your panties all in a bunch?
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THEN (!!!!) figure out how to give that feeling or thing to yourself today in some shape or form.
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What’s so cool about this process is it takes AWAY the unnecessary shame, blame, guilt, and heaviness around fantasies AND jealousy that exists in our culture. It allows you to gain clarity from it all.
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Because, really, i’s not about the object of your fantasy - or the thing you’re jealous of.
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It’s about what turns you on so damn much in it all. It’s about what it means for you to have it. It’s about unapologetically declaring what you want.
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Fantasies: You feel heavy and a huge wave of longing with fantasies. And maybe they’re completely socially unacceptable, so you fixate on how inappropriate you are for even HAVING the fantasy in the first place.
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BUT you could, instead, be asking yourself, what do you believe about the object of your fantasy? Do you believe he’s… x,y,z? Where in your life are you getting x,y,z? How can you create that feeling of x,y,z right now? Today?
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In the fantasy, are you feeling accepted? Loved? Wanted? Sexy? Taken care of? Fantastic loss of control? Full-on release?
Cool. You’re craving that. Now. Remove any shame, blame, or guilt around even having the fantasy and ask yourself…
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How can you create that feeling today - right now - in your life? How can you give yourself the feeling of being loved, wanted, accepted, sexy, taken care of - how can you give yourself the experience of full-on release if that’s what you’re craving?
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Jealousy - one of my favs: How can you lighten up the whole thing and make it simple: Oh - you’re jealous - boom - you’ve just easily identified something you want in life. AWESOME! CLARITY!
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Whaaaaaaatever about the ways your body and soul are showing you your desires… get down to business of giving yourself what it is YOU WANT in life! You’re worthy of whatever it is. I know that for sure.